Why are women so defensive, reactive and of low self-esteem?
Question by sd: Why are women so defensive, reactive and of low self-esteem?
Read this prostitutes story quoted from an interview in an article.
“It is hard to understand why a woman who isn’t a drug addict would become a prostitute, but then there are a huge number of reasons why someone finds themselves in this situation, says Karen. In her 20s, SHE WAS THE VICTIM of a horrific attack and sexual assault, which left her with an anxiety about men. She thinks she has tried to counteract it by putting herself in what she sees as a position of power over them. “I’m the one in control, they’re paying me. I’m not stupid – [the assault] probably does have something to do with proving to myself that I can be the one in control, that I can have something at the end of it. I can say when he walks out the door.”
She came to prostitution late – she is in her early 50s but looks much younger – after leaving her full-time job as an administrator six years ago after being bullied. It LEFT HER DEPRESSED AND UNCONFIDENT. She has a history of alcohol abuse and also had ME, which left her unable to get another full-time job. “Just driving to work and back every day would exhaust me,” she says. “I have to factor in a lot of rest in my life. I know my limitations and I keep within them as much as possible.”
A few years earlier, Karen had left an unhappy marriage and began using internet chat rooms to meet men. “I started going on blind dates and it slowly started to evolve into having sex with strangers,” she says. It wasn’t such a huge leap, she says, into charging for what she was giving anyway. “I had a bad month, financially, as I invariably would, and it started as a trickle. I had always been curious about doing it – I think I was trying to prove to myself that actually prostitution was OK. But now I realise that it isn’t.” She put an ad offering massage in a newsagent’s window and found that sex work would fit in around the hours of rest she needed to control her chronic fatigue
Best answer:
Answer by Hugh J
I’m not being sexist here; I’m just speaking from observation, experience, and honesty. But women seem to be hardwired mentally with a system that regards only the, forgive my lack for a better term, erratic emotions they may or may think they have. This system, in compliance with “emotions,” completely and utterly disregards any form of logic, as logic and emotion are diametric opposites. If they “feel” inadequate, they won’t just ignore it and move on, they will come up with something to attempt to fill the void. This goes for any negative, or actually in some cases positive, emotions. Again, not being sexist, just speaking from sheer observation. If anyone needs any clarity in my quasi obfuscated mess of an answer, please say so, as I wish not to be the igniter of the next World War.
Answer by Moose
Why are women so defencive or why is THIS woman So defencive?? I think it is obvious why this woman is so defencive isn’t it??
She was attacked, her life is changed for ever and ever, she now has to find some control on the outside because she has no control on the emotions she has on the inside.
Her life is changed for ever and ever. She will never be the same because of one moment in time. Imagine being violated in the worse possible way, she now NEEDS to be defencive to survive unless she can get help and heal her pain. As for lack of self esteem… I think that went with the attack don’t you??
I think this is a really sad story and I feel for her, I work with women like her all the time, and once… I was one of those women.
I hope she heals her life.
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